What’s Your Eye Q?
From Dave Ludena, Real Estate Rockstar…
I was recently talking to a mentor of mine (yes, a mentor has a mentor. Guess what? That mentor has a mentor, too. I’m willing to bet THAT mentor has a mentor) and we were discussing vision.
He said that as humans, we hunger for vision. If we are unable to create a compelling vision for ourselves, we will latch on to someone else’s vision. With no vision for our future, ours or someone else’s, we extinguish our powerful internal fire.
That’s some heavy stuff if you think about it.
And in some cases, very sad because so many go without. The good news is that we can ignite it at any time. That is our choice. Today I want to discuss creating a compelling vision and how this will serve you in every aspect of your life, including your real estate investing business.
Create Your Compelling Vision
The first step is that you have to SEE yourself in a better situation than you are currently in without justifying where you are. When you make excuses, this serves you not.
As my high school coach said: “Don’t complain, don’t explain.”
So what most do is write out their goals. Hey, I’m a big advocate of goals. The problem with goals is that they won’t keep you going past the tough days UNLESS they are coupled with a vision.
When working on your vision, it’s helpful to keep 2 things in mind:
- Who do you want to be and how do you want to be known?
- Your vision is YOUR vision, not just something that sounds great.
That’s the problem with goals... we write out what sounds good. Take a peek at your January 1st goals and resolutions… how many have you hit? Close to hitting? Buried and forgotten?
Many times, the problem is that we live in the past and that clouds our vision. Maybe something didn’t work out before and now you almost expect to fail.
I like what Jack Nicklaus said:
“Sometimes the biggest problem is in your head. You’ve got to believe you can play a shot instead of wondering where your next bad shot is coming from.”
In other words, expect good to happen. Kind of the glass half full idea.
Another great, Michael Jordan said: “You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them.”
So, the truth is that for you to change, you DO NOT have to change your circumstances. You must change the way you see… YOU.
I don’t know about you, but I find that to be a huge relief. So get a better definition or description of you. However you describe yourself is the you who will show up each day.
Change the way you see yourself, change the way you show up.
What this entails is “BECOMING.”
Each day, put yourself in the shoes of someone who is dripping with the success you want. Don the armor of someone who is ‘unmessable.’ Heck, I have a picture of Donald Trump in my office. Drip me in his success… not his hair. (Although that hair is unmessable…)
You want to “ACT as IF”… not “Fake it til you make it.” Fake it indicates faking – and you won’t feel congruent. “Act as if” means you are already there. You SEE yourself there. No faking needed.
What we feed into our being will manifest. So start with “Becoming” language:
- “I am the type of person who can succeed.”
- “I am someone of value.”
- “I have a story that should be shared.”
- “I am worth of helping others.”
- “I am grateful for who I am growing into.”
- “I am a successful real estate investor.”
- “I am unmessable.”
Try it on… I think you will find it a good fit, though maybe awkward at first. But as you make it a habit to speak it, believe it, LIVE it… it will manifest.
One final note. Understand that frustration is common. We all fall victim to it. But realize that frustration is just the gap between where you are and where you should be.
Do yourself a huge favor… relinquish that. That isn’t serving you. Tell yourself: “When I am becoming, I am not frustrated. I am grateful.” Now see it… and be it.
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Do you have compelling vision? How did you get there? Share in the comments section below.